Healing With Music

Here is a list of Classical Music Recommendations from Music Therapists and Scientific Resources:   (Utilizing classical music can be an important piece of healing from depression and anxiety.  Listening to uplifting music has also been found to have a positive effect on genes.)

1. To Encourage Exhilaration, Joy, Light-Heartedness, Enthusiasm and Uplift:
   1. Beethoven- Symphony No. 7 in A Major, “Presto” (and I personally love Beethoven’s 9^th Symphony, “Ode to Joy”)
   2. Emmanuel Chabrier- Espana
   3. Rossini- William Tell Overture
   4. Handel- Messiah- “Hallelujah Chorus”
   5. Johann Strauss Jr.- On the Beautiful Blue Danube
   6. Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart- Symphony No. 35 in D Major—Haffner, “Presto”
2. For Focus and Clarity of Mind (i.e. could use for ADD/ADHD)
   1. Bach- Brandenburg Concertos
   2. Brahms- Violin Concerto
   3. Mozart- various compositions: Eine Kleine Nachtmusic, Piano Concerto No. 21 in C, The Marriage of Figaro, Flute Concerto No. 2 in D, Don Giovanni
   4. Telemann- Concerto for Three Violins and Orchestra
3. For Headaches and Pain
   1. Mozart- Symphony No. 39 in E Flat
   2. Mozart- Piano Concerto No. 12 in A Major
4. For Learning:
   1. Bach- Harpsichord Concerto in F Minor
   2. Handel- Concerto No. 1 in F
   3. Mozart- various compositions
   4. Telemann- Double Fantasia in G Minor for Flute and Strings
   5. Vivaldi- The Four Seasons (“Winter”movement)
5. For Physical Energy:
   1. Anderson- Bugler’s Holiday
   2. Beethoven- Turkish March
   3. Clarke- Trumpet Voluntary
   4. Sousa- Stars & Stripes Forever
6. For Prayerful Meditation:
   1. Bach- Come Sweet Death
   2. Bruckner- Symphony No. 8 Third Movement
   3. Handel- Largo (from Xerxes)
   4. Williams- Fantasia on a Theme of Thomas Tallis
7. For Strength and Courage:
   1. Brahms- Symphony No. 2, final movement
   2. Elgar- Pomp & Circumstance, March No. 1
   3. Key- Star Spangled Banner
   4. Steffe- Battle Hymn of the Republic
8. For Relaxation and a Quiet Atmosphere:
   1. Bach- Air on the G String
   2. Bruch- Scottish Fantasy
   3. Copeland- Appalachian Spring
   4. Debussy- Clair de Lune
   5. Grainger- Blithe Bells
   6. Gregorian chants
   7. Grieg- Lyric Suite
   8. Kreisler- Humoresque
   9. Mantovani- Strings
   10. Pachelbel- Canon in D
   11. Saint-Saens- Adagio from “Organ Symphony in C# Minor”
   12. Vivaldi- “Largo movement” from “Winter Movement” of The Four Seasons
9. Final note: If you are new to classical music or would like to better understand it, you may want to take one of the many free online “music appreciation” courses available on the internet.

(“Music Therapy” may involve much more that just listening to pieces of music, but may also include sound therapy, etc.)

Sources:   Campbell- The Mozart Effect: Tapping the Power of Music to Heal the Body, Strengthen the Mind, and Unlock the Creative Spirit, 

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/01/100107132551.htm, 

Mozart therapy: A sonata a day keeps the doctor away, Nedley- The Lost Art of Thinking, Pinkerton- The Sound of Healing, Psychitary and Music- http://www.indianjpsychiatry.org/article.asp?issn=0019-5545;year=2014;volume=56;issue=2;spage=128;epage=140;aulast=Nizamie

No article on this blog is intended to be taken as medical advice.  Always check with a health care professional for those conditions that need the attention of such.

Self-Empowerment With Breath-Work

Breathing with Visualization and Meditation Very Helpful for Self-Esteem and More!

Something that can be very helpful to build self-esteem is as follows:

1. Think of something you want to heal, resolve, or change. The more specific the better.  (i.e. rather than, “my anxiety,” it would be “my fear of being seen as incompetent when I do such and such…”)
2. Come up with a symbol, metaphor, or a meaningful word to symbolize your fear. Then find one you want to replace it with—any symbol, word, etc. that is meaningful to you and helps you visualize or feel the desired state you want.
3. Now do the 1^st half of the Collarbone breathing routine (before changing hands) whilst meditating on the negative state you’re letting go.  (For a "how to" do collarbone breathing, see below.)
4. Then do the 2^nd half of the CB breathing whilst meditating on the positive change state you want. I personally like to do 3 sets of CB breathing for this exercise. Your goal is to let go of the negative and bring in the positive, when you feel you are in the desired state, hold on to that and relish it!
5. When you are done, meditate in the positive state with one hand on the back of your neck and one hand on your forehead.  (aka "Tappas Acupressure"). This will be even more effective if you know BSFF and use your cue word throughout, and close with the closing sequence.  
   
   
6. Do 2-3 times daily if possible (at least once daily) as you witness the change happen!
7. After each breathing session, think of 4-5 things you can endorse yourself for each time--or at least 7 things for which you are genuinely grateful.

Collarbone Breathing 

          Collarbone Breathing (“CB Breathing”) acts as a reset button to neurologically reorganize the brain.  It is helpful for clumsiness, fatigue while reading, low performance, clumsy gait, chronic procrastination, addictions & cravings, anxiety, OCD.  It is also helpful for ADHD, Learning Disorders, dyslexia, Tourettes Syndrome, schizophrenia, and a multitude of conditions that negatively affect lifestyle.  You can follow these links to learn CB breathing with Dr. Franzi Ng:

Introduction to Collarbone Breathing by Dr. Franzi Ng:

(8:59 min.): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAe1zptu_jc  

Collarbone Breathing Only (1:42 min.):

Collarbone breathing only, Dr. Ng (1:42 min): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mb2o3HVvvNA

Relieve Stress with Rockin!

Trauma keeping you awake?  This may help you sleep like a baby!

Someone I worked with saw me the other day and wanted to tell me how much this method has helped her sleep.  She has a history of significant childhood abuses.  She got a rocking chair recently and started rocking 20 minutes before she went to bed.  She said it makes her so relaxed---more relaxed than she ever remembers being.  She gets in bed and wishes she could stay awake and enjoy the relaxed state she is in, but she is so relaxed that she goes into a deep restful sleep.  She said she is sleeping better than she can remember sleeping--pretty much ever.  She's sleeping like a baby!

This motion helps the brain stem.  I'm going to paste a clip from an article I wrote about this method some time ago.  Sweet dreams!

Good news: current research is finding success with trauma sufferers.  They have found that there are various movements that can help the brain handle the release and healing of traumatic incidents (even multiple traumas; see resources by Bruce Perry at childtrauma.org.) Some of these movements are: swinging, rocking, jumping on a mini-tramp, Tai Chi, therapeutic dancing S.K.Y breathing, etc. Hoffman (deceased trauma therapist) had her trauma clients rock in a rocking chair 20 minutes a day as they are going through therapy with her. Ms. Hoffman was also able to use EFT (and other modalities) in helping these sufferers heal in ways they never thought possible.  Rocking is an important part of their healing, as it has markedly increased the response rate. 

Building Self-Esteem (part 1)

This information is from McKay and Fanning's landmark book, Self-Esteem, 3rd Ed, an excellent book! (Combined with BSFF cuing, this approach can be extremely powerful!)

There are basically two self-worth categories: "situational" and "characterological."  Sometimes a person just has a situational problem or issue going on.  Many people will need to work with both categories, but here's a great start:)

There are 4 Situational Problems that Negatively Impact Self-Esteem 

1. The "Shoulda's" ("I coulda shoulda woulda!"--Beating self up relentlessly.)

2. Perfectionism (Not allowing mistakes and imperfections as a normal, growing part of life. You can even endorse yourself for having the courage to do something even if you make a mistake.)

3. Vulnerability to criticism (Work on not taking criticism personally--have a growth mindset and work on self-validation, acceptance, and considering where the criticism is coming from (is it a valid source?)) 

4. Non-assertiveness: It's ok that you have legitimate needs! Inventory your wants and needs. Work on putting your needs and your valid wants into words. Then work on saying those words and standing up for your validity as a person.  (It is also helps people when they focus on being grateful for what they do have:-).

Situational Self-Worth Work Bottom Line:

 Refute the critic, stop the thoughts (then change the thoughts), identify strengths (list & endorse), and accept yourself (trust in validity). Cue if you know how (see below.)

If you know BSFF then you can cue for failsafes and misbeliefs with each step.  Adding in scriptural truth can be SO powerful with cuing!  Read some positive scriptures into your phone and cue with them. Remember, use a juxtaposition, cuing on the negative thoughts, then thinking (or saying) the positive replacements and cuing on those. Toggle it back and forth, back and forth, until you start going right to the positive belief. Remember to end with the closing sequence (to seal the deal:-) at least morning and night.  I think you'll be amazed at the outcome.  More on this later!

New Information in Forgiveness Work

Forgiveness Work on a Deeper Level:

What is the "Memory Field?"

I've come upon something I understand to be the "Memory Field." It is where the Family Constellation Field and the individual's own DNA field intersect.  I see it as a point in the middle of 2 Celtic Weave lines, but it's certainly multi-dimensional.  It can be a failsafe area to clear in your forgiveness work. When you clear this field you're releasing a TON of information (aka "energy")!

This memory field is about the question of complete forgiveness--the "forgive and forget" kind. Clearing work like BSFF can be so deep that on some level we fear we will forget not only what happened to us, but the learning we received from that experience.  So we may be afraid to completely "forgive and forget." If we cue for it as a failsafe when we feel our forgiveness work is incomplete, this can be very powerful.

Through an answer to prayer, I realized that we can put the memories into a different sphere, or energy field, so that we can access the memory if needed and retain all of the learning we gained from it, but "forgive and forget" it completely.  With complete forgiveness, we change in a positive way and we don't need to remember it--just like God says if we repent He will "Remember our sins no more."

 See Jeremiah 31:33-34 "But this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel; After those days, saith the Lord, I will put my law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people.
 34 And they shall teach no more every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the Lord: for they shall all know me, from the least of them unto the greatest of them, saith the Lord: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more."

Symptoms That May Indicate Long-Term Energy Reversals

What are some possible symptoms of long-term energy reversal(s)?  (Why do I seem stuck?)

• Depression and anxiety (and other mental illnesses)
• Chemical sensitivities or allergies (especially multiple allergies)
• Reversal of morality (believing right is wrong and wrong is right)
• Chronic deep emotions that are difficult to clear or resolve, such as:
• Anger, fear, deep shame, feelings of unworthiness, unforgiving, low self-worth, those involved with addiction, etc.
• Poor identity or even an over-identity getting into narcissism, high arrogance, etc.
• Difficulty in getting your words or meaning out when speaking
• Confusing your left with your right, visa versa
• Difficulty with spatial orientation 
• Reversing letter and numbers
• Gait is off: Restricted arm swing or homolateral arm and leg movements (left arm moves with left leg, right with right) when walking, or gait off in other ways
• Significant awkwardness or clumsiness in movement

What are some possible causes behind deep energy reversals?

• Raised by a mother (or father or guardian giving primary care) that has chronic or deep depression or anxiety (or abandonment of mother, etc.)
• Multiple ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences)
• Family trauma 
• Birth or in-utero trauma
• Virus
• Bacteria
• Certainly there are many causes---just look up causes for depression and anxiety and other mood or mental disorders.  THE MORE IMPORTANT THING IS THAT THE ENERGY REVERSALS CAN BE CORRECTED!

What are some possible ways to correct deep long-term energy reversals?

• Full Armor of God and Orientation Scripts (working through them and daily BSFF cuing:-)
• Donna Eden's Official Daily Energy Routine for 6 weeks to re-correct, then on a daily basis.
• Maintain a healthy lifestyle, in all areas of your life.  
• It seems that Contrasting Showers help this as well.  (aka "Contrast Showers"

What I've found is that the energy systems of those who are deeply depressed or anxious are not getting the replenishment from the earth (and thus from heaven--it is a healing cycle.)  The above correction suggestions can help the person become grounded and start receiving the renewal the body is meant to get from the earth and heavens.  (See this blog for an introduction to BSFF: https://embarklifecoaching.blogspot.com/2016/03/what-is-bsff-and-how-can-it-help-me.html)

Sources:

Energy Psychology Interactive: Rapid Interventions for Lasting Change:  David Feinstein, PhD

Addressing Deep Reverals--healing the reversed personality: Phil Mollon, PhD  (presented in the 16th annual ACEP conference, Phoenix, AZ.

Donna Eden's Official Daily Energy Routine

My own observations  

How Do I Know If I Need Family Constellation or Family Energetics Work?

What May Indicate the Need for Family Constellation (Family Energetics) Work?

Here are some things that may indicate that Family Constellation (Family Energetics) Work may be helpful to you and your family:
1. Abandonment, rejection: If you or someone is abandoned, rejected from, or left out of the family--or if someone was forgotten about or not talked about.
2. Emigration:  If you had an ancestor emigrate and it was difficult for them, they continue to long for their homeland, etc.
3. Sensitive to Injustices: If you are quite sensitive to injustice and easily pick up on other's emotions. (Many children are very perceptive and will sometimes take on the energy of "unjust circumstances" as their own.)
4. Business Failures and Loses: If you or your family have a continued pattern of business failures, business losses, job loss, unable to find a job, etc.
5. Ill-Health: If you or your family have chronic illness or another kind of health problem that doesn't respond to treatment.  Allergies may indicate need for Family Constellation Work as well.
6. Family Secrets or Family Trauma: If your family had any trauma or family secrets that were "thrown under the rug," affecting the balance and flow of love in the family.  Also, if there was family trauma that was not discussed in ways that healed the family.
7. Black sheep in Family or the Family Scapegoat: Being a Black sheep can often indicate the need for Family Constellation Work.  Black sheep often do what they do out of a child-like love for the family.
8. "What was excluded on the human level will be included in the Family Soul." So, if important matters of a parent or family were left undone, it may indicate need for Family Constellation Work.
9. Mental Illness: Sometimes the roots of repeated family mental illness can be found in Family Constellation Work.  i.e. Bipolar disorder, major depression, suicide (especially if it's repeated down the generational line), anxiety, trichtillomania, etc.
10. Inexplicable Emotional Heartache: If you have feelings that just don't seem to be your own, or if your own feelings seem out of proportion to what one would expect in the situation.
11. Divorce:  If your parents divorced (or if you yourself had an "ugly" divorce) and you felt like you needed to take sides, or you were asked to takes sides, etc.
12. Addictions: People with addictions are often deeply sensitive and may have taken on a lot of unresolved family suffering in an effort to help the family members.  I have found Family Constellation Work to show up often for people with addictions.

How Much Family Constellation Work Will I Need?
There isn't a hard, fast rule.  Some will feel improvement after the first session, others will need repeated visits until the issues in their Family System are all cleared up.  You're freeing up a ton of energy in a session, so it's worth it!

What I have found in Family Constellation Work is that the deceased family members seem to be deeply grateful when it is work that was done by "calling" or "assignment."  And when it is done with someone who has taken on hardships unnecessarily,  the Family Constellation members are grateful that the person is now at peace.  As John Payne says regarding those who take on the family energy unnecessarily, "the Souls of those [ancestors] who have suffered are unhappy when they see others take on or suffer a similar fate out of loyalty to them.  Just as our own parents wish us to flourish and be happy, so it is with Souls towards whom we have unbalanced loyalties.  For them, the loyalty neither serves them nor improves their situation.  Their greatest wish is that others within the family can be free to enjoy all of life's rich blessings."

This blog is not intended to be taken as medical or psychological advice.

Family Constellation, Family Energetics Work, and You

What is Family Constellation or Family Energetics Work?

Family Constellation (aka Family Energetics) work involves freeing bound up energy blocking the flow of love in the "Family Soul." The flow of love in a family generational line can be blocked when an ancestral family unit experienced difficulties that overwhelmed the capacity of the family to handle the ensuing emotions that resulted from those difficult events. In Family Constellation/Energetic Work, something occurred in the family setting somewhere back in the generational line that was not adequately addressed, processed, accepted, or that was completely ignored. This resulted in a loss of the flow of love in the Family System, and this imbalance in the Family Soul may continue until it is resolved through proper acknowledgement and processing. (It doesn't necessarily need to be ancestral though--if your own family had difficulties that weren't addressed you may benefit from Family Constellation work so it isn't passed on to your children. )

For example, those who do emotional/psychological work understand that if there is unfinished emotional business in an individual who dies, it can be passed on to that individual's children (manifest in many ways, physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc.) The same is true of the Family Soul: unfinished business may get passed on through the Family Soul, and a perceptive child in the family may take on that energy as their own in an attempt to help the Family Soul heal.  In most cases of Family Constellation or Energetics work, the individual really did not need to take that disruptive energy on--which can cause them all kinds of difficulties.  In other cases it seems the individual takes on the energy by "calling, or assignment", and one of their underlying subconscious life goals is to help heal the Family Soul.  (I have found this to explain "past life" and inexplicable personal issues in ways that make so much sense.!)  But Family Constellation issues can be cleared--and that's great news!!!!

I have found Family Constellation/Energetic work to be very freeing.  It releases a ton of pent up energy and seems to allow individuals to have much greater access to the love and help that their deceased family members want to give them.  Something interesting to note is that people outside of the family who did things to affect the flow of love in the family become part of the family constellation (even though they aren't family members.)  I find this very interesting because it underscores how important forgiveness is to the Family Soul--and the beauty of the Atonement on a whole new level.

What are some events that can create the need for Family Constellation (Energetics) Work?

1. Attachment Issues: Failures in childhood attachment bonding (for various reasons) of someone in the Family Constellation---this could go back several generations if the lack of attachment effected the family from that point on.  It is well-understood in Attachment Theory, that the unhealthy attachment affects relationships in a family system for a lifetime if not healed.
2. Parent/Child Seniority Switching: If for some reason the parent is unavailable (physically or emotionally) and a child becomes the parent's "parent" or "spouse."  This can create a block of a healthy flow of love in the family dynamics and create the need for Family Constellation Work.
3. Former Partner or Lovers excluded: This can be about unresolved emotions for a first love, a former spouse, etc. that blocks the flow of love in the family.  Small children have keen emotional sensitivities and can pick up on these things if their parents (or grandparents) still have attachment to former lovers, the ex, etc.  This can potentially block the flow of love in the family.
4. Major Injustices in the Family:  This injustice can go either way--if a grandparent (great-grandparent, etc.) was unjust with someone , or if someone was unjust towards them (i.e. a land swap that turns out to be unjust, plantation owners, arsonist who gets money for the fires they create, etc.)  This may affect the flow of love in the family, especially if the family hangs onto it with anger and unforgiveness. (Note: Remember, the need for work is only there if the injustice was not processed in a complete way--again, forgiveness is huge!)
5. Tragic Suffering in the Family:  These can be things like miscarriages, stillbirths, abortions, untimely deaths, suicides, murders, crippling long-term illness, forced emigrations, birth defects, etc.
6. Catastrophic Events: This can be combat remorse for veterans, natural disasters, war, survivor guilt of members who survive terrible events (like the holocaust), etc.
7. Perpetrator-Victim Abuse: Abuse in it's many forms.  This can be from a one-time experience or an ongoing abuse situation.  Family members down the constellation line may feel the need to atone for the actions of the perpetrator, or the victim may have carried wounds they found impossible to process.  So remember, the abuser and the victim are both part of the constellation because of how it affected the flow of love in the Family Soul. Also know that this can include forms of "ill-gotten gain" if you had an ancestor involved in dishonest or immoral gain (like slavery, immoral business dealings, etc.), or visa versa.

If we did Family Constellation (Energetics) Work with you, remember that we acknowledge their suffering, thank them deeply for all they've faced, all they have done for the family, and we gratefully free it and give it to the Lord (or the universe), or back to them.  Hopefully we can give it to the Lord, but some aren't ready for that.

Good Reads:
Family Energetics by Deborah H. Donndelinger
The Healing of Individuals, Families and Nations by John L. Payne
Health, Happiness and Family Constellations: How Ancestors, Family Systems, and Hidden Loyalties Shape Your Life and What You Can Do About It

This blog should not be taken as medical advice.

Say No to Your Addiction!

What Can I Do When I Am Tempted (or triggered) to Return to My Addiction?

1. Make a Plan, Work the Plan* (see suggestions below):  Notice and write down what "triggers" you.  Avoid these triggers if possible, and cue for the emotional/spiritual triggers.  Decide ahead of time what you will do when faced with triggers, especially unexpected triggers.

             * Make a list of all of the reasons why you want to overcome your addiction(s).  (cuing!*)

             * Read this list 20 times a day.  Record it on your phone and listen to it again and again. (cue)

             * Have your BSFF Quick Sheet handy for cuing.  If specific events or emotions come up, it's a good idea to cue for those specifically.

2. Command your Muscles to Act:  You see, your muscles can re-train your brain.  It has been found that you literally can act your way into correct thinking! So listen to your muscles as their actions train you in the correct response to your cravings. Exit the building--RUN! Don't even go into the room or building that contains the trigger or substance (or computer, etc.) if possible.  Command your muscles not to act on what your brain is obsessing about.

Command your muscles to stay still and breathe deeply, focusing on the mechanics of your breathing (and cuing!) Give commands to your muscles of what they will and will NOT do--and follow those commands.  Let your body know you mean it! Be the Boss of You!  And start cuing!  (Remembering to cue for the failsafes.  There are many failsafes when it comes to addictions.)

Set a Timer: You can resist for at least 5 minutes. Start to work your plan in those 5 minutes, and start cuing for the reasons you're triggered and craving.

3. ENDORSE!  Pat yourself on the back now.  NOW!  Endorse yourself for EVERY EFFORT TO RESIST IMMEDIATELY-- THE SECOND YOU RESIST!  Then CUE or EFT tap!

4. Statement suggestions: 

"It is now worth it to me to face the pain(s) of my addiction(s) and overcome my compulsion to use." (Cue) 

                "I allow the pain (emotional/spiritual events) that this addictive urge represents to be swallowed up in Christ ." (cue and remember it can be helpful to be specific if possible)

                "I allow God to replace my pain (specific if possible) with His love and peace (or other positive emotions such as security, serenity, etc." (Cue)

                 Continue to create statements cue as needed, and as inspired.
Always finish with your Orientation and Full Armor of God cues.

*These ideas may be helpful in making your plan:
1. Visualize being surrounded with God's Love and Light.  Put on the armour of light (Romans 13:12) (and cue using the quick sheet if possible--if not, just cue!)
2. PRAY for help, for ideas, for people you can reach to--pray!
3. LISTEN to beautiful music that uplifts and humbles and motivates you to resist the battles.  LISTEN to what the Holy Spirit is trying to say to you.  If you feel too far removed from the Holy Spirit, listen to what you would hear someone say who really believed in you at some time in your life.
4. SCRIPTURES: Use 3-4 scriptures that really motivate you to put on 3X5 cards, or in your phone...and CUE!
5. USE Your love of JESUS CHRIST AND GOD AS A SHIELD!
               * Put a picture(s) of Christ up to help you recall His Love for you, and your Love for Him.
               * Put Affirmation cards up with "I AM" Statements (for Afformations--put "why" in front)
                                 i.e. "I AM A DISCIPLE OF CHRIST." (cue)
                                       "I AM A CHILD OF GOD." (cue)
                                       "I LOVE JESUS CHRIST, AND HE LOVES ME." (cue)
                                       "I WILL PLEASE JESUS THIS MOMENT, etc." (cue)
                * Remember that the Savior will literally go before you as a shield:
                                      "..I WILL BE THEIR SHIELD" (D&C 35:14)  (cue)
                                      "THE LORD IS MY STRENGTH AND MY SHIELD." (Psalms 28:7) (cue)
                                      "...BUT THOU, O LORD, ART A SHIELD FOR ME...." Psalms 3:3 (cue)

Yes, you have many neuropathways to redirect--kind of like clearing a jungle path with a machete, so this may take some practice.  ENDORSE FOR EVERY GOD-GIVEN VICTORY!  And...
6. KEEP SCORE OF YOUR SUCCESSFUL RESISTANCE:  Really do this.  This part is extremely important!  On a piece of paper make a mark for every time you resist the temptation to use.  It's very important you report the number of successes to someone every day. Let them know how many times you resisted during the night and during the day. Especially report to God!  Set up someone right now to report to--needs to be a living, breathing person.  Your Mom, or Dad, a friend, or even better, a sponsor. Start attending a local recovery group. Check 211 for resources, there are many addiction recovery services in the community to help you find someone to help.

MAKE YOUR PLAN, WORK YOUR PLAN!
*Cuing refers to using the method, "Be Set Free Fast".  These tools can be effective alone, nevertheless, the BSFF approach will make them much more effective.

THIS BLOG IS NOT INTENDED TO BE TAKEN AS MEDICAL ADVICE!  THE AUTHOR ADVISES THAT YOU SEEK OUT HELP FROM A QUALIFIED PROFESSIONAL.

What Is BSFF and How Can It Help Me?

Dr. Larry Nims is a psychologist. He became discouraged as people returned with the same problems over time, even though they had both worked hard to overcome them. He felt like there must be a more effective way to help people get better for good.  Over years of study and prayer, he was inspired to develop the method known as Be Set Free Fast.  When I took the training in 2015, I knew that my years of searching for a better way were over. I had finally found what I was looking for! BSFF has changed my life, and I hope you will learn how to use it so it can change yours!

The way I like to describe how BSFF works is this: Have you ever played with a Kaleidoscope?  As you change the kaleidoscope, it goes into a completely different picture as you turn the shaft.  You will go from one view to a totally different view by turning the shaft.  Well, with BSFF it's like you're turning the shaft of a kaleidoscope, and you put in a new template.  You are shaking off the old beliefs with a "Cue Word", and then replacing them with truth and light.  (Instructions to your Subconscious Mind make the "Cue Word" have the profound effect it has.) It is a beautiful process--as beautiful as a kaleidoscope!  (No wonder we used to love those things!) BSFF works in the level of consciousness.  Our consciousness oversees our chakras and meridians, so doing proper work using BSFF can be profound.  I have learned that working with consciousness and awareness is like working with the light that projects into the kaleidoscope.

BSFF is a very language-based method.  Although language is not my forte, I have loved the language of the scriptures throughout my life.  So I came to realize I could bring my love of the scriptures into my BSFF methods.  I have been amazed at the results.

On Youtube Dr. Nims giving a short introduction to Be Set Free Fast (BSFF).  It seems too good to be true, but the process was inspired by God and is truly life changing.  It will probably take some study and training for the method to be as effective as it can be due to what Dr. Nims calls "Failsafes", which are basically the reasons we keep re-creating our problems and issues.  You can order Nims manual and a training online.  It will probably be most effective to work with someone trained in the method if you have real chronic problems, but hey, miracles happen:-)

Collarbone Breathing, Power at Your Fingertips

Collarbone Breathing is a very potent tool in acting as a "reset" button to neurologically reorganize the brain.  It has been found to be helpful for clumsiness, fatigue while reading, for low performance, clumsy gait, chronic procrastination, addictions and cravings, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder.  It has also been found to be helpful for ADHD, learning disorders, dyslexia, Tourettes Syndrome, schizophrenia, and a many other things that negatively affect one's lifestyle.  

Here is Dr. Franzi Ng with directions on how to do this effective breathing method: 

In this video she shows you how to do the breathing steps:

And this one is the shortened version you can use when you know how to do it:          

TFT Now Evidence-Based: This is Dynamite!

The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services SAMSHA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)'s National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices just listed Thought Field Therapy (grandfather to Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)) as an evidence-based practice for the following conditions:

Effective Outcomes Using TFT

1. Personal Resilience/Self-Concept
2. Self-Regulation
3. Trauma and Stressor-related Disorders and Symptoms

Promising Outcomes Using TFT

1. Depression and Depressive Symptoms
2. General Functioning and Well-being
3. Phobia, Panic, Generalized Anxiety Disorders (GAD) and Symptoms
4. Unspecified and Other Mental Health Disorders and Symptoms

Why is "Evidence-based" status such a big deal?

An evidence-based status means it has been rigorously evaluated in a series of experimental evaluations, including randomized controlled trials, and has been found to make positive statistically significant differences in important outcome areas.  These findings have been supported by data repeatedly and is more effective than standard care or an alternative practice, and it can be reproduced in other settings. 

This is a huge step forward in mental/emotional healing and I am so excited!  If you're wondering, I have been trained in components of TFT through my Comprehensive Energy Psychology training.  It is similar to EFT, but uses specific algorithms in tapping sequences.  

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The Body's Many Cries For Healing

Are Emotions Related To Illnesses? 

Our mind, body and soul are most definitely inter-related! Here are some emotions that have been found to be related to the following body systems. Keep in mind that an emotion may be housed in all systems, like complicated grief, etc.  If you think what you read below isn't true for you, I suggest you sit with it for a bit and open your mind and heart to the possibility, thinking of your entire lifespan.  If it still doesn't resonate, maybe it's another person's stuff you've taken on (or even your Family Constellation), or it could just not be true for you.  This article took me quite some time to compose.  I hope it is helpful to you and yours.

Body/Organ/Mind Connections and Emotional Healing

Combining this information with prayer, EFT tapping and/or the breathwork routine I have on this blog can be very helpful.  

Adrenal Gland: Conflict (anxiety), Failure, Abandonment, Facing the World  Ideas To Balance: Atonement (At-one-ment),  Embrace the World
Appendix: Fear  Ideas To Balance: Faith

Arteries/Veins: Disharmony, Conflict, Feeling Trapped  Ideas to Balance: Harmony, Peace

Bladder System: Fear, Suspicion, Futility, Anxiety, Anger, Hanging Onto Things, Gender Identity, Obsession with Order or Lack of.   To Balance: Courage, Trust, Hope

Central Nervous System: Abandonment, Wrong, Abuse, Anger, Victimized. To Balance: Forgiveness (this can be self-forgiveness too), Courage, Trust, Hope, Accept God's Love, etc.

Colon: Fear of letting go, Hate of self or others  To Balance: Faith, Awareness, Charity

Connective Tissue: Isolation, Inflexibility, Control  To Balance: Connection, Humility, Trust 

Eustachian Tube: Irresponsibility, Fear of Hearing the Truth  To Balance: Trust in God; Self

Eyes: Fear, Feel Loved Only Conditionally, Struggle , see Liver list   To Balance: Faith, Charity & God's Love, Clarity
Frontal Sinus: Possessive Dominance, Feeling Stuck, Feeling Vulnerable To Balance: Feeling Centered and Secure 
Gallbladder:  Rage, Intolerance of Others (Judgmentalness).  To Balance: Tolerance, Kindness

Heart: Heartache or Heartbreak, Loneliness, Feeling Not Good Enough, Worry, Traditional Sayings (heartsick, cold-hearted, broken-hearted, etc.)  To Balance: Love for Self and Love for Others, Reaching Out to Others in Service, Receiving Service From Others

Hypothalamus: Shame, Fear, Betrayal  To Balance: Understanding, Faith, Trust

Joints: Deprived. To Balance: Fulfillment

Kidneys: Fearful Isolation, Inner Fear, Shame   To Balance: Reaching Out to Others, Gentleness with Self, Faith

Large Intestine: Controlling, Holding On, Abandonment, Rejection   To Balance: Release, Surrender, Forgiveness.
Liver: Rage Against Self, Guilt, Rejection, Failure, Regret.  To Balance: Self-love and Acceptance, Self-forgiveness, etc.
Lungs: Grief Abandonment, Denial, Rejections, Total Despondency, Disharmony in Home  To Balance: Inspiration, Faith, Letting Go, Atonement

Lymphatic System: Abandonment, Anger, Failure, Guilt, Losing, Wrong   Ideas to Balance: Accept Atonement, Laughter, Forgiveness, Assurance
Maxillary Sinus: ? Check Bladder Meridian list

 Pancreas: Betrayal, Fatigue, Self-Judgment, Issues with Life, See Stomach Meridian list   To Balance: Trust, Alignment, Forgiveness of Self, Rejuvenation 

 Parathyroid: Disharmony  To Balance: Harmonize with Life and Others

Peripheral Nervous System: Victimized, Victim Consciousness, Despair. To Balance: put your foundation on Christ, Trust God, Patience
Pineal Gland: Fear of the Unknown, Misunderstanding of Spiritual Things   To Balance: Prayer and Meditation, Accepting God's Grace, Beauty, Serenity, Trusting God, etc. 
 Pituitary: Aloneness, Abandonment, Victimized or Victim Consciousness, See Central and Governing Vessel Meridians below.  Ideas to Balance: Acceptance, Atonement, Inner Strength. 

Reproductive Organs:There are many possibilities with this system. The main ones could be: Identity, Repression, Feeling Not Good Enough, Self-hate, Guilt.  Others: conflicting ideas about human sexuality, fear, loneliness, unresolved feelings towards mother, creativity issues, feelings of unworthiness, feelings about nurturing or being nurtured.  To Balance: I would pray for help in knowing what to do.

Skin: Criticism, Humiliation, Anxiety, Fear, Including Fear of Being Who You Are.  To Balance:   Unconditional Love, Honor Self and Others.
Small Intestine: Feeling Divided, Scattered, Pulverized. To Balance: Discernment, Decisive, Atonement.
Sphenoide ; Ethmoid Sinus: ? See Bladder Meridian, Central Vessel Meridian, Gall Bladder Meridian.

Spleen: Over-Compassionate, Inability to Assimilate Input, Guilt, Abandonment, Wrong.  To Balance: Fair to Self, Metabolize Input to Self, Self-Compassion.
 Stomach: Obsessive Worry, Abandonment, Fear of New, Control, Feeling a Victim.  To Balance: Trust God, Trust the Universe, Trust the Process, Take the Eternal Viewpoint

Teeth: This could be many things. Some people hold emotion in their teeth. See Donna Eden's book, Energy Medicine for a chart that relates each tooth to the relative meridian system.

Thymus: Anger, Failure, Losing, Wrong, Abandonment, See Central Vessel meridian below.

Thyroid Gland: Sadness, Injustice, Failure, Humiliation, Misunderstood, See Central Vessel meridian.

Urinary Tract: Kidney Meridian: Fearful Isolation, Shame, Misunderstood. To Balance: Gentle with Self, Move Towards Others (connect with others).
Central Meridian Vessel: Feeling Vulnerable, or in some cases, Feelings of Despair or Despondency.  To Balance: Feeling Centered and Secure, Putting Foundation on Christ.
Governing Meridian Vessel: Feeling lack of Courage or Strength to handle. May relate to deepest feelings about self.  To Balance: Self-Empowerment, Self-Efficacy, Putting Foundation on Christ, "I Can Do All Things In Christ, Who Strengthens Me."

Possible Emotional Roots Behind Depression and Most Anxieties

Ultimately, I have learned that depressive emotions boil down to the following.  You can just see which seems to be the closest to what you are experiencing, and then ask for help to heal from them.

• Anger (some call it Rage) at Self or Others.
• Inner or Outer Fear. (Afraid of inner experiences or outside experiences.)
• Inward or Outward Shame. ("Shame on me", or "They think I am shameful.")
• Inward or Outward Blame.
• Rejection of Self.
• Fear of Rejection.
• Hopelessness or Despondency,
• Sense of Destruction (Self or Other).
• Fragmentation of Heart or Soul.

I know this:  Either God wants you to heal from these destructive emotions, or He will provide a way for you to bear your depression and anxiety with a sense of hope. (R.I. Method says "there are NO hopeless cases." )

References:

Butcher, Mineka, Hooley. (2007). Abnormal Psychology
Eden, Donna. (1999). Energy Medicine 
Feinstein, D. (2004). Energy Psychology Interactive
Hay, L. (1998). Heal Your Body
Low, A. (1978). Mental Health Through Will-Training
Mein, C. L. (2004). Releasing Emotional Patterns With Essential Oils
K.K. Truman (2003). Feelings Buried Alive Never Die
Wauters, A. (2002).  The Book of Chakras

Addictions, Anxiety and ACEs: Empower Yourself With Tools to Heal

Calming Down Anxiety and Even Panic

One thing I love about working with students is helping them calm down from anxiety, or even an anxiety attack.  I am usually able to show them very helpful tools that help them feel better in short order.  Sometimes these tools can lead to beautiful emotional release. Other times it isn't so much emotional release that's needed, but education of what some of the underlying causes may be.

For example, one day a student was having what appeared to be a full-blown panic (anxiety) attack during a fire drill.  I noticed this student in the hall in “melt down” mode.  After the drill I was able to show the student some “Eden Energy Medicine” calming techniques (see below).  For example, the “Triple Warmer Smoothie” is a great way to calm down anxiety. At times I’ll have a student use EEM, while at other times it will be Jin Shin Jyustu, with them gently holding an appropriate finger while we talk. With one student we started doing EFT tapping, and that opened up a wonderful dialogue.  The students I’ve worked with this way are usually very intrigued and welcome the calming that comes.

Unfortunately as a school counselor I really don’t have time to work with students one-on-one on a continual basis.  (And there is so much a person can learn to do for long-term healing.)  That's why as a Life Coach I love having the time to empower people with education and tools to help them feel great!

ACEs and Anxiety, Depression, Obesity, Illness and Addiction and Emotional Release

I became interested in studying safe emotional release due to my own depression and anxiety that resulted from what are now called “Adverse Childhood Experiences,” or “ACEs”[i].  Recent studies have found that the more ACEs a child has, the more likely they are to have chronic depression, anxiety, obesity, and illnesses.  In fact, if a child has 4 or more ACEs, their risk of behavioral and learning disorders goes up 3200%! ACEs are often (but not always) behind addictions as well, so healing from the ACEs can be key to healing from addictions.  

Healing From ACEs

One big challenge in regular “talk” therapy is resolving trauma that occurred on a level that “talking about it” won’t readily resolve. Thankfully there are many safe, effective forms of emotional release coming out to help us heal ACEs (even ACEs that aren't remembered), with an ever growing body of studies to support these methods.  It is so exciting!

What Are "ACEs?"

[i] The following are classified as ACEs ("Adverse Childhood Experiences): Psychological, physical or sexual abuse to the child or the child witnessing explicit scenes of such as a child; substance abuse, divorce or parental separation, mental illness, battered mother, jail or prison time in the immediate family, and then experiencing emotional and physical neglect.  More recent ACE research finds a variety of experiences can be traumatic to a child that would not necessarily be traumatic to an adult. Childhood surgeries, acute childhood illnesses with high fevers, etc., can get lodged in the body as trauma that needs to be resolved.

To calm down anxiety and panic, I really like this Triple Warmer Smoothie and Triple Warmer balancing exercise done here by Prune Harris: