Building Self-Esteem (part 1)

This information is from McKay and Fanning's landmark book, Self-Esteem, 3rd Ed, an excellent book! (Combined with BSFF cuing, this approach can be extremely powerful!)

There are basically two self-worth categories: "situational" and "characterological."  Sometimes a person just has a situational problem or issue going on.  Many people will need to work with both categories, but here's a great start:)

There are 4 Situational Problems that Negatively Impact Self-Esteem 

1. The "Shoulda's" ("I coulda shoulda woulda!"--Beating self up relentlessly.)

2. Perfectionism (Not allowing mistakes and imperfections as a normal, growing part of life. You can even endorse yourself for having the courage to do something even if you make a mistake.)

3. Vulnerability to criticism (Work on not taking criticism personally--have a growth mindset and work on self-validation, acceptance, and considering where the criticism is coming from (is it a valid source?)) 

4. Non-assertiveness: It's ok that you have legitimate needs! Inventory your wants and needs. Work on putting your needs and your valid wants into words. Then work on saying those words and standing up for your validity as a person.  (It is also helps people when they focus on being grateful for what they do have:-).

Situational Self-Worth Work Bottom Line:

 Refute the critic, stop the thoughts (then change the thoughts), identify strengths (list & endorse), and accept yourself (trust in validity). Cue if you know how (see below.)

If you know BSFF then you can cue for failsafes and misbeliefs with each step.  Adding in scriptural truth can be SO powerful with cuing!  Read some positive scriptures into your phone and cue with them. Remember, use a juxtaposition, cuing on the negative thoughts, then thinking (or saying) the positive replacements and cuing on those. Toggle it back and forth, back and forth, until you start going right to the positive belief. Remember to end with the closing sequence (to seal the deal:-) at least morning and night.  I think you'll be amazed at the outcome.  More on this later!

New Information in Forgiveness Work

Forgiveness Work on a Deeper Level:

What is the "Memory Field?"

I've come upon something I understand to be the "Memory Field." It is where the Family Constellation Field and the individual's own DNA field intersect.  I see it as a point in the middle of 2 Celtic Weave lines, but it's certainly multi-dimensional.  It can be a failsafe area to clear in your forgiveness work. When you clear this field you're releasing a TON of information (aka "energy")!

This memory field is about the question of complete forgiveness--the "forgive and forget" kind. Clearing work like BSFF can be so deep that on some level we fear we will forget not only what happened to us, but the learning we received from that experience.  So we may be afraid to completely "forgive and forget." If we cue for it as a failsafe when we feel our forgiveness work is incomplete, this can be very powerful.

Through an answer to prayer, I realized that we can put the memories into a different sphere, or energy field, so that we can access the memory if needed and retain all of the learning we gained from it, but "forgive and forget" it completely.  With complete forgiveness, we change in a positive way and we don't need to remember it--just like God says if we repent He will "Remember our sins no more."

 See Jeremiah 31:33-34 "But this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel; After those days, saith the Lord, I will put my law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people.
 34 And they shall teach no more every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the Lord: for they shall all know me, from the least of them unto the greatest of them, saith the Lord: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more."