What May Indicate the Need for Family Constellation (Family Energetics) Work?
Here are some things that may indicate that Family Constellation (Family Energetics) Work may be helpful to you and your family:
1. Abandonment, rejection: If you or someone is abandoned, rejected from, or left out of the family--or if someone was forgotten about or not talked about.
2. Emigration: If you had an ancestor emigrate and it was difficult for them, they continue to long for their homeland, etc.
3. Sensitive to Injustices: If you are quite sensitive to injustice and easily pick up on other's emotions. (Many children are very perceptive and will sometimes take on the energy of "unjust circumstances" as their own.)
4. Business Failures and Loses: If you or your family have a continued pattern of business failures, business losses, job loss, unable to find a job, etc.
5. Ill-Health: If you or your family have chronic illness or another kind of health problem that doesn't respond to treatment. Allergies may indicate need for Family Constellation Work as well.
6. Family Secrets or Family Trauma: If your family had any trauma or family secrets that were "thrown under the rug," affecting the balance and flow of love in the family. Also, if there was family trauma that was not discussed in ways that healed the family.
7. Black sheep in Family or the Family Scapegoat: Being a Black sheep can often indicate the need for Family Constellation Work. Black sheep often do what they do out of a child-like love for the family.
8. "What was excluded on the human level will be included in the Family Soul." So, if important matters of a parent or family were left undone, it may indicate need for Family Constellation Work.
9. Mental Illness: Sometimes the roots of repeated family mental illness can be found in Family Constellation Work. i.e. Bipolar disorder, major depression, suicide (especially if it's repeated down the generational line), anxiety, trichtillomania, etc.
10. Inexplicable Emotional Heartache: If you have feelings that just don't seem to be your own, or if your own feelings seem out of proportion to what one would expect in the situation.
11. Divorce: If your parents divorced (or if you yourself had an "ugly" divorce) and you felt like you needed to take sides, or you were asked to takes sides, etc.
12. Addictions: People with addictions are often deeply sensitive and may have taken on a lot of unresolved family suffering in an effort to help the family members. I have found Family Constellation Work to show up often for people with addictions.
How Much Family Constellation Work Will I Need?
There isn't a hard, fast rule. Some will feel improvement after the first session, others will need repeated visits until the issues in their Family System are all cleared up. You're freeing up a ton of energy in a session, so it's worth it!
What I have found in Family Constellation Work is that the deceased family members seem to be deeply grateful when it is work that was done by "calling" or "assignment." And when it is done with someone who has taken on hardships unnecessarily, the Family Constellation members are grateful that the person is now at peace. As John Payne says regarding those who take on the family energy unnecessarily, "the Souls of those [ancestors] who have suffered are unhappy when they see others take on or suffer a similar fate out of loyalty to them. Just as our own parents wish us to flourish and be happy, so it is with Souls towards whom we have unbalanced loyalties. For them, the loyalty neither serves them nor improves their situation. Their greatest wish is that others within the family can be free to enjoy all of life's rich blessings."
This blog is not intended to be taken as medical or psychological advice.